I piled on responsibilities and activities to feel complete and clung to friendships and grades for validation. But in a matter of months, I moved away from family, felt rejected by friends, struggled in school, and experienced the worst depression and anxiety of my life. All my comforts fell away, and I could no longer hide from what was left: imperfect me. 

In that dark season, God drew close. He held my broken heart and whispered, “I still love you.” For the first time, the freedom and beauty of His unconditional love hit me. I devoured scripture, found grace, and finally experienced peace. When I had nothing, I still felt I had everything because I had Him. I learned I am complete in Christ. I am fully known, seen, and still fully loved. I have confidence and peace, truly. My question ever since has been, how do I live under grace instead of perfectionism so I can experience more of it? That’s why this blog exists. 

In this blog, I share what God teaches me through my misunderstandings, fumbles and failures, and hard research, as well as the specific, practical tactics that work so other recovering perfectionists can feel both heard and encouraged. Here, fellow perfectionists are comforted, equipped, and coached into the same complete peace and confidence I’ve found in God.

I’m passionate about sharing what I’ve learned because I know how it feels to be trapped, lost, and in despair. I’ve experienced freedom in Christ, and now I can’t wait to guide others to the hope I know in Him. I grew up in church, but I misunderstood so much because of church hurt, leading me to legalism instead of love. Now, through my writing and coaching, I help individuals identify misunderstandings and experience the truth: God loves you, and that changes everything.

I can’t wait to share the journey with you, 

-Alycia Dantier